Question: Hello Madam Koverage, I just found out recently that there is a high percentage that I may not be able to have kids. I am 26 years old and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for the past two years. I love this man so much, but the thought of me not being able to have our kids terrifies me. We recently started talking marriage, so I know the engagement will be coming sooner than later.He always talks about how life will be complete once he makes me his wife, and we have kids together. I really don’t know what to do. Should I let him know now and hope for the best, or keep this info to myself so I don’t risk losing him. What can I do?
Answer: WOW! First off let me say that I am terribly sorry to hear that, but you are still alive, so don’t beat yourself up. If there is a chance that you cannot bear your own children, there are still other alternatives if you want to be a parent. Secondly, I most definitely think that you should tell him. If he loves you the way you say, I don’t think he will leave you.. at least not immediately. Sit down and really discuss other alternatives that you both can agree on. You don’t want to not tell him and lead him on and withhold information that affects both of you. It seems like you have a wonderful man in your life, so I pray that he is with you every step of this journey. If not, that means he was not meant to be for you. You are only 26 and I know you probably think its too old and close to 30, but it will be ok. You will find someone who will love you for you and won’t leave you despite not being to have children. I pray everything does work for you. Good luck!