It’s currently 2 o’clock in the morning and after surfing on social media for a few hours, I felt compelled to stop what I was doing and write this article. Everyone loves a good love story, so it’s only natural to want that for yourself. I can’t help but notice how people are always yelling out “Relationship Goals” or “God when will I find love like this” under their favorite celebrities Instagram posts daily, and now more particularly asking for “The Wanted Prayer”. What kind of prayer may you ask?
There are many examples I could give, but a current relatable example would be of Singer and Songwriter Ciara and NFL Seattle Seahawks Football player Russell Wilson, who have been married for two years now. Ever since they got together sis has been glowing and everyone wants to know the “secret”. But before she was able to get the fairytale marriage and husband that we all see on social media, I have to share some past history. We have seen her in the spotlight in and out of many failed relationships, and most notably the last relationship she was in before she married Russell Wilson was with Rapper Future who she was also engaged to. Unfortunately, he cheated on her, and she also ended up having her first child with him, and not too much longer after that, they ended the relationship. I think many women around the world related to Ciara because we all have been broken by some man at one point in our lives, got cheated on, or also may have become a single mother, which is probably something they never saw for their future. Ciara reveals in a 2016 interview with Essence Magazine, “I remember telling my friend the kind of guy I wanted: a God-fearing man with a very fun spirit who loves kids and would really, truly care for me,”. “I was very specific because I do believe you can have it all. She also speaks on being a single mother saying, “That wasn’t necessarily part of my vision,”But the moment I realized I was going to be a single mother, I had to reflect and reorganize my thoughts. I decided to trust that God had a plan for me, and move forward one day at a time.” Your life does not have to end because you had a child. A child is a gift from God. From the very beginning of their relationship, you see that Russell had no problem stepping in to be that ” Father like” figure to Ciara’s son. She got exactly what she prayed for. I’ve learned over time its so important to be intentional in how you pray. Of course, there are some things that God may think is not best for you, but don’t be afraid to be specific in what you really want. Stop looking at what other people have, and look into your heart and ask yourself what will truly make you happy. And don’t forget to work on the best version of yourself during that process. As you are working see what things you can do to be the best woman God called you to be, not for anyone else, but for yourself. As much as I love seeing a good love story on social media, I’ve learned to not get so caught up in the hype, that you start feeling unworthy or that you are not good enough. Everyone’s journey to love is very different. Some will have to endure more than others. But don’t ever think that you are not worthy to be a wife. That will never be the case sis. Trust me I have been there, but when you know the love that God has for you, you will never want to settle and you shouldn’t. I rather be single and have peace of mind then be in a situation I know I am not supposed to be in, blocking blessings that God may try to bring into my life, all because I don’t want to be single. Yes, all your friends are getting married.. and what? Don’t get caught up in that, just trust God has your match coming your way soon.
Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results. After meeting Russell Wilson, she did things a little bit differently than previous relationships. Ciara and Russell took a vow of celibacy until marriage, and I truly feel like God is rewarding them for that in their marriage now. Ladies don’t get so comfortable to the point where you are playing the role of a wife: mentally and PHYSICALLY, without a ring, and get hurt when he decides not to put a ring on it. It is important for us to realize our worth because at the end of the day… ladies you are the prize. Trust me, ladies, men know exactly what they want. If you are not a priority to him, don’t feel bothered, just move on, because there is someone out there waiting to treat you like a Queen. Most women who can relate to Ciara’s story are glad to see living her best life after being in a series of unfortunate situations. You will meet a guy that will make you forget that other ones even existed. According to a 2017 interview with USA Today, Ciara states, “I really believe that when you focus on a friendship, you have the opportunity to build a strong foundation for a relationship,” the artist said, “and once you know you’re really great friends and you’re what we call ‘equally yoked,’ where you share the same values or the same outlook on life, it kind of sets the tone. Knowing that you’ll always have the friendship and that you can always go back to it is very important,” she shared, “and very powerful.” And I totally agree it’s so important to build that foundation as friends first, before jumping into anything serious. But it seems as though women are putting the good guys in the “friend zone” while letting the bad guys break their heart. If you look at Russell Wilson and Future, most women would probably pick Future and friend zone Russell Wilson saying he’s “corny” or “cheesy” possibly missing out on a good man. While most people are asking Ciara and various other women in successful relationships, or marriage, ” What’s the Prayer?”, have you thought that your blessing could be right next to you? The guy that you go to that helps wipes your tears whenever you need a shoulder to cry on. The guy who speaks life into you, when you can’t speak it into yourself. The guy who treats you like a Queen, and feels lucky to have you as a friend. Don’t count those ones out ladies, you never know what blessing you may be missing out on.
So in conclusion, this prayer that you ask for? Well, I don’t quite have that specific prayer because I myself am waiting for who God has destined for me, but I will say don’t conform to what society may portray on social media. Follow your heart. Don’t settle. And most importantly, be intentional in asking God exactly what you want. And he will deliver that and more than you could have ever imagined for yourself when the time is right.
Thanks for Reading!
-Madam Koverage